White women at gay bars

We earn a commission for products purchased through some links in this article. I appreciate the accepting atmosphere that these spaces create, and I love that my friends want to show their support of me and my community so openly in them. I came out just before starting university, having made wonderful and very straight friends during my time at college.

I was worried they would treat me differently after I came out, or be freaked out thinking I either hated men or fancied one of them. It turned out most of them knew I was gay long before I did. One of my male friends came back from the bar carrying drinks and a phone number, written on a napkin. Later on, we went to dance at another bar.

On a small side stage, men in cowboy costumes were dancing. Before I knew it, another friend was dancing between them and trying to take a hat from one of their heads. Awkward side glances and a request for her to get down followed. So, you want to support your queer friend in the space they love and have a boogie to Whitney Houston?

Gay Bars Can be Mind-Bogglingly Racist

For straight, cis people, the world really is your oyster! Luke, a year-old gay writersays queer spaces have become somewhat of a tourist attraction for hen dos. And this can cause a lot of problems. It really changes the vibe. This means we have to go back to monitoring the way we behave, in spaces that are supposed to belong to us.

This involves treating people as objects for your pleasure, not full human beings. Ed, a year-old bisexual teacher, has experienced this kind of behaviour first hand. They just pull me over and are very tactile. They randomly dance with me before ushering friends to take pictures of us dancing without asking me.

Then they can get frustrated when I try to walk away! Pansexual sex educator Topher30, agrees that although this behaviours is common, it can be really harmful. We shoved her off, and she acted very shocked to have been corrected while sexually assaulting me in public. I felt invaded and we left. Be considerate of places with a maximum capacity that are already pretty full, too.

So, maybe trying to get you and six of your friends into G-A-Y on Pride weekend is an idea to rethink…. The morning after my night out I was presented with a bacon sandwich and some sheepish looks. Hopefully my next trip to Soho will be more successful, with a lot less eye rolling and quick escapes out of the side exit.